ANOTHER Set-back

So, this morning I checked my e-mail before work at about 1:45 AM. I received an e-mail from Jerri at Baker Victory with yet another set-back. ICBF (Colombian Child Welfare people) need some “clarification” or for us to “amplify” something that is in my (Pam’s) psychological summary. Are you kidding me???? She seems to think that this will involve another trip to the psychologist, a letter from her stating that I’m not crazy or dangerous or anything (she didn’t exactly say that but…) and then having it apostilled and then sent back down to Colombia. Of course we have to wait for Jerri to receive the actual letter stating what needs clarification. After all we have been through and now this.

We have had so many setbacks with this adoption. And just when we think that we should go through there’s another hitch. Is someone trying to tell us something or are we just supposed to work extra hard for this. First it was the social worker who wouldn’t get back to us and held everything up for MONTHS. I’m still very bitter over this and the way we were pushed aside and lied to so many times. Then things seemed to be moving and now this. I could scream!! Did I mention that some families that hosted when we did, and started their process way after us, are either in country or have completed their adoptions?? And of course it comes before a work day when I have no access to communication to clarify all of the questions I have about the “new” time line.

I was getting really worried that we wouldn’t be home by Christmas with Angie and Camilo. This wouldn’t be such a big deal except that there is a five year old and seven year old that might not take it so well if their Mother and Father was away during the Holiday’s. All of the children deserve to be with their parents for Christmas and the fact that we are even facing this is absolutely ABSURD and UNNECESSARY! But now if we move fast on this we will be guaranteed to be in Colombia during Christmas. But what if we stall??? That is hardly fair to Angie and Camilo. This sucks and it didn’t have to be this way. I’m sad, angry and still hurt that we are now in this position because OUR social worker was avoiding and putting us off. So, again, we just hang in there and see what unfolds.

Pam